Chef_Troy ([info]chef_troy) wrote,
@ 2009-03-05 12:24:00
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Until someone makes me a "wearily clutching my forehead" icon, "angry" will have to do.
Every time my son gets a bad grade on a test or something, he calls me at work from the school counselor's office to tell me.

I am not exactly glancing at the clock every day hoping against hope that today will be the day that I get another one of these calls.

I think he does it because he wants to get it off his chest, because he thinks I'll cool down about it between now and when I pick him up, and because he wants a witness in case I reach through the phone and dope-slap him.

Today's call was a special one. Instead of a bad grade on one test or one piece of homework, he was calling me to tell me that he has a 60 average in biology class for the entire grading period.

That's right, folks, my scary-smart son is flunking a class.

Apparently he tried to call his mother about it first, thinking this might be the call that finally got me to set him on fire with my mind, but she couldn't take the call. When she later called me to find out what was up, I told her, and her reaction was "It's those goddamned video games. They're nothing but a distraction. Well, you know what we're going to do? We're going to pack 'em up. They're going away. We're disconnecting the Wii, we're confiscating the Xbox controllers and his DS, and that's that."

My silent reaction to that idea was "Well SHIT. I'm not flunking biology -- why the hell can't I still play?" But I've been giving it some thought, and the truth is that video games ARE a huge distraction, and there are several other ways I could more profitably be using that time, so I'll go along with it.

My brother's family has a policy of "no electronics during the week." Starting Sunday at dinnertime, nobody -- including the grownups -- plays video games or uses the computers except for work (I'm not sure about the television). The ban lifts right after school every Friday and lasts the weekend. Apparently it works well; I may suggest to Mrs. Chef that we do the same, rather than instituting an outright ban.


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[info]chef_troy
2009-03-05 07:15 pm UTC (link)
These are good points, and I'm going to keep Mrs. Chef from eviscerating him before he has a chance to explain. One bit of bad luck for him is that she's feeling ill today, and that's going to make her extra grouchy about everything.

He likes biology, and he's been maintaining a B average in there up to now. I really think he got behind the eight-ball when he got sick, and then he convinced himself he couldn't catch up because he didn't want to do the work.

I have to take a portion of the responsibility here, because the district provides an online tool to track your kid's grades on a daily basis, and I haven't been using it. Frankly, if I'm going to be honest with myself, part of why I'm so pissed off at him is that this means inconvenience for ME -- I'm going to have to give up video games, and I'm going to have to e-mail his teacher and have a goddamned conference and I'm going to have to watch his grades online all the time because apparently I can't trust the knucklehead to ask for help when he gets overwhelmed.

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[info]debrafortune
2009-03-05 07:21 pm UTC (link)
I was soooooo happy when her high school put together online assignment tracking for parents. Unfortunately, the teachers often didn't use it in a timely manner so I'd end up fighting with her about assignments that "didn't get turned in" according to her teachers, only they had been... ugh.

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[info]chef_troy
2009-03-05 07:30 pm UTC (link)
This system distinguishes things that haven't been graded yet from things that were given a zero, fortunately.

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[info]aeire
2009-03-05 07:45 pm UTC (link)
I'd call it a good time to maybe give him a lesson in time-management as it were, planning, that kind of thing - and let him know that it's -okay- if he comes to you guys for help if he needs it.

Half the time the reason I never said anything until it was too late was because I was super embarassed about falling behind and didn't want to look really stupid to my parents - I mean, to a kid, your parents are your GODS. You don't wanna look dumb in front of them - that's the last thing you ever, ever want.

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