Chef_Troy ([info]chef_troy) wrote,
@ 2009-03-05 12:24:00
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Until someone makes me a "wearily clutching my forehead" icon, "angry" will have to do.
Every time my son gets a bad grade on a test or something, he calls me at work from the school counselor's office to tell me.

I am not exactly glancing at the clock every day hoping against hope that today will be the day that I get another one of these calls.

I think he does it because he wants to get it off his chest, because he thinks I'll cool down about it between now and when I pick him up, and because he wants a witness in case I reach through the phone and dope-slap him.

Today's call was a special one. Instead of a bad grade on one test or one piece of homework, he was calling me to tell me that he has a 60 average in biology class for the entire grading period.

That's right, folks, my scary-smart son is flunking a class.

Apparently he tried to call his mother about it first, thinking this might be the call that finally got me to set him on fire with my mind, but she couldn't take the call. When she later called me to find out what was up, I told her, and her reaction was "It's those goddamned video games. They're nothing but a distraction. Well, you know what we're going to do? We're going to pack 'em up. They're going away. We're disconnecting the Wii, we're confiscating the Xbox controllers and his DS, and that's that."

My silent reaction to that idea was "Well SHIT. I'm not flunking biology -- why the hell can't I still play?" But I've been giving it some thought, and the truth is that video games ARE a huge distraction, and there are several other ways I could more profitably be using that time, so I'll go along with it.

My brother's family has a policy of "no electronics during the week." Starting Sunday at dinnertime, nobody -- including the grownups -- plays video games or uses the computers except for work (I'm not sure about the television). The ban lifts right after school every Friday and lasts the weekend. Apparently it works well; I may suggest to Mrs. Chef that we do the same, rather than instituting an outright ban.


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[info]xengar
2009-03-05 11:08 pm UTC (link)
I figure that since everyone else is offering you un-asked for advice, I should offer my two cents as well.

It may have nothing to do with the problems your son is having in school, but the cause of most of the problems I had was . . . that I was, as you put it, scary-smart. I was bored in a lot of classes and didn't have to put in much effort to keep up, which showed up in half-assed homework but high test scores. The real problem showed up later, after this theory was floated and I was moved into more difficult classes; I had never really had to study before and wasn't good at it. If this is what's going on with your son, then I would guess that he got caught up on the learning from those missed days, but but couldn't muster the motivation to finish the work from them.

For example, I was reading at a college level, according to the standardized tests, by 6th grade, but was slowly drifting into lower and lower English classes because of my scores. It became a self reinforcing spiral because the slower and more carefully the concepts were put forth, the less I had reason to pay attention because I already knew it. When my parents got my moved up to the top level class as an experiment, I was actually interested in what was being taught . . . and flunked because I had gotten used to already knowing what I needed to without effort on my part. It seems telling to me that it is Biology that is the problem, as that is another class that I skated by in. Does your household perhaps watch a fair amount of Nature/Nova/Discovery Channel/etc?

If (and notice that all through this I've emphasized that my case might not be relevant) he is the way I used to be, then trying to change his study habits (ie: taking away the video games) won't help much. I'm not sure how one goes about imparting studying skills because, as I said, it's something I'm still trying to improve and I've been out of college for a decade. But my guess would be that this is what he needs

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